A POSITIVE APPROACH TO AGING

Aging is something we all do, every day of our lives, and just as we have always sought security and happiness, there is no point at which we should not continue to do so. We need never become “old”, for that is a state of mind we are all in charge of. There are definitely adjustments to be made, and new circumstances to deal with, but each one is really just the beginning of another new adventure. With good communication and a positive attitude, we can remain young at heart and enjoy life as long as we choose.

Communication:    

Discussing some of the inevitable changes in our lives as we age can be anything from uncomfortable to devastating. It’s no less painful for those who love us and are preparing to face the reality of losing our physical presence in their lives. However, no-one is exempt, and these things must be talked about, openly and truthfully at all times. Be frank, deal with the realities, ask the hard questions and insist on definitive answers.

One of the problems with communication is the illusion we are communicating. Another is assuming people know what we want, or assuming we know what someone else wants. Express your thoughts, and emotions; listen and communicate with genuine interest and respect, and your lines of communication will always be open, and a great comfort to you.

Accountability: 

In the end, we alone are accountable for the way we live our lives, and for the legacy we leave. Don’t be afraid to show your love to those close to you, accept graciously and gratefully, the loving things they do for you every day. Too often, years of fond memories are obscured by the confusion, emotional pain, and hardship we heap upon those who love us and must care for us during our final times. If your actions or lack of action throughout the years have been hurtful to someone else, it’s never too late to make amends. Put your affairs in order.

Continue doing the things you have always enjoyed, even if you must make some modifications. Look for new ways to be active and have fun. Take care of your health, have regular check ups (medical and dental), exercise, eat healthy food, stay busy and enjoy good company. Never stop learning.

You may need some level of care at some point, and moving to a higher level of care could become necessary. Make plans with your potential caregivers while you have the ability to do so. Keep an open mind. Look into care facilities yourself; you may never need one, but if you do, it will be like "coming home."